Important Stuph…

Yesterday, a friend of mine asked me to go walking. I really didn’t want to, cuz I’d have to drive a long way, I’d get there late, blah, blah, blah, but I reluctantly consented. While I was driving there, I suddenly realized something that totally bummed me out… my favorite tv shows were on that night! Aaugh! How could I forget? Truthfully, I almost called my friend, and said that I had another engagement that I forgot about… seriously? over a TV show? Well, we went walking, and had some pretty engaging conversation. I’m glad that I didn’t wimp out.

After I got home, I received a bit of a scare, from my daughter and her health. As we talked, I pretty much demanded that she see a doctor, and she said she couldn’t go the next day, because her schedule was too tight (geez, does she have to be stubborn like me? 🙂  ). Thankfully, she is going in the morning, and after that, I’ll be able to relax, a bit.

TV shows… schedules… stuph… somehow, those have become the most important things in our lives. How did that happen?

I’ve had the opportunity to get together with a few friends recently, catching up on old times, or just sitting around watching kids play and enjoying some decadent ice cream. No schedules. No TV. Even no social media (which is totally hard for me). Just spending time with people I love. The interesting thing is that the more I do it, the more I want to do it. Very out of character for for an introvert like me.

Important stuph… I think it’s high time that we redefine what is important. Not that schedules and favorite TV shows are not important, but if all we are doing is existing from task to task, or living vicariously through the two dimensional characters on the box on the wall, I think we miss out on what life is all about. We have to be able to do the one, without neglecting the other.

I had visited a friend in the hospital, and I loved his perspective. He couldn’t wait to get out to see his kids, and to spend time with his wife. Work? secondary… hospital stuff? there, and very important, but again… secondary. He had defined what is really important in his life. I commend him for this. Not only do I commend him, I am learning from him.

I’m learning that the most important stuph in my life isn’t stuph at all… the people in my life are the most important… more than work, more than goals, more than my favorite tv shows. I’m also learning to let those people know that they are the most important. I’m not always good at it, but I’m trying to get better.

What is your important stuph?